Realization more important than rights


      All said and done but what has altered so far? Scads of activists have been fighting for women’s rights but nothing has changed ,despondency scuppers since eternity to spifflicate every hope or move .What’s wrong are men insuperable heroes of oppression or women are enormously frail or uncoerced strivers of patriarchy?The so called modern ladder of emancipation of the female folk witness women either on the lowest or highest rung but hardly anybody in between for those in between the two extremes are in reality emancipated for they are the one who have actually crushed the trammels of pariarchal obeisance which stitches up women both at the upper and lower rung.

 

                    Women at the lower rung are blasphemed the most for they are sensed to be the perpetrators of misogyny and patriarchy since ages.Okay i too hold on to that thought, that their excessive dependence and adherence to the male community fettered women for centuries .They wore innumerable ornaments for the eudaemonia of their husbands ,fasted for their husband and sons,blamed other women for the infidelity of men but never the men involved.They crushed every hope for liberation and stifled the women who dared to rebel against such malpractices .

 

                     But wait ! Are we less decomposed when compared with such women who reeks of patriarchy to the core?Will a black dot just do enough to show our remontration? Do we really respect other women? Our prejudices play a very defining role than our rationale.We respect other girls till the time they subscribe to our ideology if they don’t we take not much time to call them bitches ,sluts ,whore etc etc.A girl can best be described as SEXY, HOT (yes other few stupid spellings like hawt,haut ) or the other extreme tacky , Behanji or other such synonyms .Is acceptance so damn crucial that we are ready to barter our identity for that?  I REMEMBER VERY DISTINCLY THAT I WAS CALLED A BEHANJI IN MY GRADUATION DAYS FOR NOT HAVING A BOYFRIEND OR SIMPLY BECAUSE I DIDN’T LIKE TAWDRY HUMOUR….OR FOR SURE  CALLED A STRUMPET BY AUNTIES FOR WALKING DOWN THE STREETS WITH MY BOYFRIEND WHEN I HAD ONE ….AHHH! THOSE DISDAINFUL EYES I STILL REMEMBER 🙂 ) Everything considered i firmly believe nobody can plump for misogyny as briglty as women can.It’s daunting to witness using the same misogynistic invectives used by guys and mind you this all comes from the so called educated indian female brigade….And one could be shocked to death to see the same set of girls adhering to the traditional rituals post marriage like fasting for the long lives of their husband ,wearing chudas with hot pants..All in all the point i want to make is women in our country who are up the ladder act more weird when comapred with those who are illiterate and ignorant.We seriously don’t have dearth of rights we never had one but realisation is something we need desperately rather than acceptance or rights .

Gossip Queens Or Bullies In Reality


The infatuation of young girls in our country with certain trademarks of girlishness is unexplainable  and upsetting,for these traits doesn’t enhance their personality as rational beings but rather depreciate their social status.Most of the things that amplify femininity are diseased  and superficial,and chasing such fashionable idiosyncrasies distances the girls from their genuine,unbleached and analytical self.One such trademark is being tagged as gossip queens ,a tag that most of the girls are proud of.

Most of the girls are inattentive to the repercussions of this crippling malady,and that’s because you need to barter your prudence with perceived femininity.It’s a trade off that doesn’t even leave room for repent.To put it bluntly gossiping is ultimately bullying only in which one is demeaning,debasing and belittling the target.

Gossip is a form of emotional and verbal bullying that many people minimize.

While you may not be pushing someone into a locker or stealing their milk money, it’s extremely hurtful to the target’s self esteem, mental health, and friendships.

Gossip deals with topics that are shocking, personal, intimate, and often embarrassing. Gossip is often untrue, exaggerated, and discussed without the target being aware.

Read article:http://everydayfeminism.com/2012/11/whats-wrong-with-gossiping/

Gossip is detrimental to the gossiper as well as the target,there’s nothing that reflects femininity in this(only if femininity tantamount to meanness).By adopting such traits we on our own disqualify ourselves as sound human beings.We become campaigners of patriarchal beliefs that women are mean,unreflective and possessed by the green eyed monster.

There’s nothing cool or happening about gossiping it’s debasing and crippling.Stand up again debasing traits and standards …

cheers  [:)]

Reconstructing Serviceableness


The product owner claims it to be a product of empowerment for the middle aged women in India.Women who experience loss of faith in themselves and are treading upon the earth as diffident souls the product is no less than a magic potion for them.The spunk of greenness which is lost over the years can be re-established once again and you hapless women out their can once again be the virgin of your husband’s dreams.”The 18 Again gel will bring back the lost confidence of middle aged women and boost their self esteem as well “,asserts the product owner.To quote it bluntly the product will enhance the desirability of middle aged women and they could once again prove serviceable. It is hard to decipher how could anybody call such products as empowering tools of womanhood? The word liberation (of women) is growing more and more stymie with the passage of time,for women are being ensnared and trapped in the patriarchal trap shrewdly.

Why would a middle aged women feel the need to tighten her vagina?

1)To enjoy sex like a virgin ?

2)Or just to reconstruct her serviceableness for her man?

  I think the second option is the appropriate answer,since it a known fact that men are obsessed with virgin status of a female .Studies in the same have revealed that middle aged men are enchanted by youth and virgin status of a female.So products like “18 Again” provide an opportunity to middle aged women to re -establish their value as sex objects .

’18 Again’ is another manifestation of empowerment-as-sex-object, especially coming as it does in a society that is adopting a western lifestyle whilst remaining shackled by patriarchal attitudes.

Far from empowering women, it is the latest incarnation of the tired virgin-whore dichotomy, which renders a woman either acceptable (virgin) or contemptible (whore), desirable or derisible.

Article:http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-09-06/man-woman/33648285_1_virgins-indian-women-men-and-women

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-08-16/man-woman/33183574_1_virginity-talcum-powder-indian-market

Products like these can only be a brainchild of patriarchal beliefs.These products promulgate the notions of patriarchal suppression of female in the society .It  a reminded to women that their value diminishes with age and sexual activity.Scores of middle aged women in our country are plagued by depression just because they ain’t able to satiate the sexual demands of their partners,and this also gives a licence to their partners to indulge in promiscuous activities .I have heard chronicles of several middle aged women who have been abandoned by their husbands on account of this reason only.Hence it is a matter of serious concern that products like “18 Again” will promote such notions of virginity in the society and nurture patriarchal fantasies of virgin hood.It would give impetus to the representation of women as objects of sexual gratification.Women would grow more and more conscious about their desirability status.

In the past years we have seen products offering fairness and freshness of the nether regions being audaciously televised.

(Coffee a reminder of the dark nether region of the wife and how dull and uninteresting

their life becomes devoid of any sexual indulgence ,culprit “THE DARK VAGINA”)

(Wife learns about this whiten your vagina cream )

(Ecstasy unparalleled and they live happy ever after….Rubbish)

Can one think of products on the same line for men?

  These products simply make females obsessed about sexual desirability and reduce their status to being objects of sexual pleasure,to go as per the demands and commands of the potent a mute,passive receiver.A reminder to women that you become feckless if you don’t make any efforts to enhance and reconstruct your productivity from time to time.Products like these promote infidelity and promiscuousness.

Social responsibility which happens to be one of the important objectives of business should not promote patriarchy in any way.The responsibility is just not about keeping the men in the society healthy,happy and alive…..after all there’s life to life givers also.

The Alpha Female Asphxyiated Or Just An Enigma


The term alpha male is not rare to anybody ,but the term “Alpha Female” is muffled,infrequent and whenever it surfaces recurrently brushed off ,because it has a sabotaging effect on the traditionally preferred semblance and deportment of females in the society.Since each and ever individual prefers acceptability baring a few gritty souls,

most females mould themselves as per the traditional standards.The alpha female is a mystery,a pursuit in the dreams of female where they live life absolute ,not arrested by sexist reservations.Sometimes females are given the alpha status when dealing with the beta soul of the same sex,and thereby inflicting harm on the inferior souls who shudder at the thought of raising their voice against the injustice for it is considered to be a breach of standards.Alpha female is a super threat to the existing system for she is somebody who doesn’t appear to need men in order to brave adversity or even in her day-to-day life.And absence of a male companion tantamount to peccancy,which in no case is acceptable.The “Alpha female” is a floozy for men and a bitch beta women.She is somebody lost in the wild and if exposed to the world perchance she is tamed to perfection and if she is iron willed then the tags are always applicable.

But the fact of the matter is that she hardly exists to quote it appropriately no genuine existence,the definition of alpha lady is extremely parochial in geotic context .The modern definition of alpha female is crucially narrow which altogether transform the very definition of the term.

Must read:http://www.bodylanguageuniversity.com/public/243.cfm

http://winningatlovebook.com/alpha-female-behavior.htm

The Deceptive femininity


 

Now a days femininity is contention,something which fosters ignorance instead of astuteness.Something which goads the practice of conceiving female as an object of pleasure.Femininity is the most run after word ,and most of the females favour the shallow definition of the same .The modern distorted definition is not something which empowers the female but is linked with sexual objectification of the same.

It’s about pink & teddy bears, diamonds,it’s about being tagged as a shopoholic,It’s about being a gossip queen,It’s about parading the flesh in public ,It’s about fighting a battle for liberty to wear short clothes,it’s about being pretty ,it’s about being sexy…but it’s never about freedom,astuteness,and lamentably it’s never about womanhood,about being crazy,disorganised,about being tough (for it’s masculine)it’s never about ipseity ,never about setting standards of sane womanhood,but always about living up to the shallow and cheapening standards laid down.

                          Femininity is no chase,
                          It’s a quest for helotry,
                          It’s a rayless painted ball,
                          And gullible “she” believes it to be the sun”

The Surname Conundrum


Married since past three months …..Clueless and baffled by the mute subscription of millions of females in our country and on the other hand having an exaggerated self opinion i didn’t .:)….Not that that i had to run the gauntlet to achieve the same but still puffed up just because i didn’t yield to the lines of male descent .I know that now some robust minded people would look down upon me for my inanity of trying to project myself as a revolutionary female who is trying hard to knock down the patriarchy but nescient that by sticking to her maiden surname  still is an upholder of the same patrileneal tradition.Yes, compatriots i am very much aware of this fact that i am still a campaigner of patrilineal traditions of carrying the father’s surname but couldn’t find a rescue in taking up my mother’s surname since she also adopted it from her father and so it won’t clear up the confusion anyhow nor would i propose to simply do away with the system altogether since it’s highly impracticable and unreasonable(No intent to give hand to caste system .:)

Personally ,i am quite okay with the tradition of inheriting the surname of one’s father which is out and out a patrilineal practice but not so bitter as is the case with the surname change drill that takes place post marriage .Logic behind such acceptance being that the parent(be it the father or mother)is someone who cultivates the individual ,is responsible for the rearing of the child and also some one from whom a child acquire her/his identity .Hence, adopting the surname of any of the two parents should be an acceptable practice anywhere round the globe(this also suggests adopting the mother’s surname should also be a welcomed practice).

But what makes me disquieted is the practice of adopting the husband’s surname after marriage.Of course many traditionalist would argue that this is done in order to ward off ambiguity and maintain uniformity .It also reflects the acceptability ,adaptability ,submissiveness and sacrificing nature of the woman(Oh! yes sacrifice even to the extent of changing one’s identity ,and why not?after all it’s so facile as the principal constituent of identity for a female comprises of her outward appearance which goes through a whole lot of metamorphosis post marriage)however none of the above rationale convince me and nor does the practice of name joining .

For most it’s highly impossible to conceive this thought to the fullest ,since in the middle of the deliberation process they would be impregnated with opinions about the proposer as to having irrational resistance to rational standards .

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Freedom vs Civility


“Emancipation the most sought after word in the present day India,the actual meaning of the word can only be deciphered when you regard the battle which an oppressed person fights,for others the vocable is just a desultory quest,i think it’s high time we cut to the chase which will very soon become the hot topic for the purpose of cogitation ……Freedom vs civility ….

This one goes preeminently for the female folk in our country,their chase for emancipation is so shallow that somewhere it compels me to believe that somehow we deserve to be treated as the inferior one’s ,because we opt for voluntarily servitude to all the standards laid down and gender stereotyping, i cannot believe it to be something we call “mancipation” ….As campaigners against dress codes will liberate our body (only for the dissipation of the opposite sex)but what about liberating that soul which holds a different story ,which cries for an identity?

The other day i went to the mall(escapism),to take a break from the soul destroying routine ….. what i saw in the underground parking lot made me dash off this status today.A women somewhere in her 40s …….to describe her an idiom will suffice “mutton dressed as a lamb”…..free from the clutches of traditional dressing but caged by boorishness,this so called emancipated spirit ,jabbering in English made her young one take a leak in the parking lot…..and recklessly she stood there and after the drill she pranced away…..i am still trying to figure out was the lady really oblivious about the fact that there is no dearth of plumbing in a mall…..or was she just too liberated to be taught anything about civility ?….would any kind of revelatory insight on the concerned issue will be considered a dent on her freedom ?

Also i am inquisitive to know that whether the same lady would let her daughter pee in public with same audacity?If not should i establish that the lady is an upholder and campaigner of gender stereotyping ?Now most of the people would consider me cynical and accuse me of making sweeping comments ,but my status is an outcome of many such incidents “

Apprehending emancipation


Do you really feel that girls in our society are emancipated ? Or is it just a chimera? For i still see so many girls acceding to all the preposterous and erratic beliefs concocted by the male dominated society.Personally i feel that these girls are to be blamed for fueling the sweeping comments about the gender.Recently i came to know that one of my cousin declined to espouse a girl  because she was corpulent.I mean it’s concedable that the girl was not at par with his standards,bewildered to know what followed the rejection.

My cousin didn’t actually said a complete no,but gave one month time to the girl and asked her to pull down some weight in this one month,and after one month he would meet the girl again.Isn’t it inane and incongruous and i was all the more baffled to know that the girl subscribed to this demand.What it exhibits?A girl who is competent,independent but still a slave to the male chauvinistic beliefs?What type of emancipation is this?

Women’s empowerment and ego problems are spoiling society???


Women’s empowerment and ego problems are spoiling society: HC judge

Do you think women empowerment have made the gender inane?If not then why most women in general misuse their freedom?If wife earns more than her husband she quotes this time and again and particularly in every fight.Freedom should make a person more balanced,but why the reverse happens?Freedom it seems bestows on most women the right to insult and derogate others.Often i have heard most working women scathing the home makers as useless souls.

What’s your take ,do you believe what manusmriti asserts “A WOMAN IS NOT FIT FOR FREEDOM” Do you believe somehow women flunk to digest freedom?

Liberty ……A Mistaken Identity


The word liberty conceived by women in general subsist as a relative term.As per my belief women have been thrown off the scent regarding the true nature of the word freedom.Liberty is absolute,unadulterated,downright and uncondensed .It’s really despicable to be a deponent of how the society have distorted the word for the womenfolk.I am infuriated with the sloven and gullible attitude of women in general.

Why we silently accept ?Why don’t we set at defiance all these askew indoctrination? If a women is allowed something which other women are not ,she starts believing that she is blessed and fortunate,turning a blind eye to the fact that she has been allowed to do something and was not the person to tip the scales.Freedom exists as a relative term for  women,and  most of them are blithe with this grisly state of affairs. Majority are even downright campaigners of this putrid and contaminated belief.